As moms, it’s so easy to get bogged down in the details…dishes, laundry, brushing teeth, baths, and the list goes on and on. And yet, we all know that the real job of a mom is so much more than the details.
The details feel urgent and often overwhelm us, keeping us from focusing on the wildly important mom tasks, like reading stories, teaching lessons, and modeling a life of meaning for our children. No, we don’t all have to be Mother Theresa to accomplish this but, I believe, we do need to search for our place in this world.
Why? Because our kids are watching. Not just whether we say “please” and “thank you” or how many veggies we eat. They’re watching how we live life…what we hold valuable and what we are quick to dismiss.
For this reason, I always ask myself, “What would I want my kids to do?” And there’s my answer. Believe me, it’s not the most fun way to live because, usually, what I want my kids to do is not the easy thing to do but the right thing to do. The right thing is almost always the hard thing.
Ultimately, here’s what I want for my kids…I want them to be happy and fulfilled, caring and sensitive, and, above all, good people over being “successful.”
As I contemplated whether or not to quit my well-paying corporate job, I thought about my kids. I definitely had the fleeting, “What about the money?” thought. And then, there was one big question that kept popping up… “What would I want my kids to do? Is this what I want for them?” Do I want them to work in a job for the rest of their life in which they don’t feel like they’re using their gifts? Do I want them to make decisions solely for money? A resounding, “No!”
Do I want them to always be learning and growing? Do I want them to do what they know in their hearts to be right? Do I want them to dream big dreams for the rest of their lives?
And there was my answer.
No matter what your decision is about, be it a career or a health goal or a relationship, ask yourself, “What would I want my kids to do?”